Recently I’ve come across many friends and even acquaintances of other friends who constantly express that they have no idea what they’d like to do with the rest of their lives.
It’s not an uncommon thing at all. Most of us have shared this feeling at some point in our young lives and some of us still feel it today.
But have you ever thought why? Why don’t you know what you want to do? Why don’t you know what you like? Why aren’t you thinking about turning your hobbies into a career?
Why isn’t it so simple for me?
Here are the reasons why.
1. You Surround Yourself With The Same People And Make No Effort To Branch Out.
Friends, you need them in life; they can help you out when the going gets tough and they can even help you feel good when you’re down.
But each person in your life brings you something. In other words, you gain something from hanging out with them; whether it’s the pleasure of their presence or a tangible resource. Nobody has a friend that they hang out with for no reason, there is always an exchange of some sort.
When you don’t surround yourself with new people or you consistently stick with the same people for years and years you’re constantly exposed to the same things, have the same conversations, and do the same things. There’s no growth in that, meaning no long term benefit for you!
Ok great, but how can new people help me figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life?
They introduce you to new things, people and experiences.
How much more likely are you to do something when you have the support of a friend? I know some people who need a partner just to go to the gym!
These new people will open your mind to trying new things that you may have never even thought of before. As creatures of habit, many humans are set in their ways and we think we know the things we like and don’t like.
Sometimes we need another person to give us a push and then bam we find joy in something we would have never discovered otherwise.
2. You Never Leave Your Comfort Zone.
Like I just mentioned, we are creatures of habit. We enjoy doing the same thing every day, we like our daily routine, it’s perfectly normal to feel that way, no one is wrong for that.
But again, there’s no growth in that.
When was the last time you deviated from your daily routine? When was the last time you went to a new city? When’s the last time you did something for the first time?
If it’s been a long time for you, then you should start thinking about making changes.
If you’ve been working the same job for years and have no opportunity for growth then leave it.
If you’ve been living in the same city for several years and have no plan on how to advance forward in your life, then leave it.
If you’ve been with a significant other that you see no future with who does not add to your personal development and success, then leave them.
If you only think about today, well you better start thinking about tomorrow.
Being comfortable is a trap, you should always be looking for ways to grow and step out of that comfort zone.
When you do this, you get exposed to new things and will certainly have new experiences. This “newness” will create opportunities for you to see things you’re not used to and be exposed to what could be the passion you never knew you had.
3. It’s not important to you.
Depending on your age and where you are in life, the remainder of your life and what you choose to do with it should be a very important topic.
If you don’t know what you want to do, that’s okay. What’s not okay is settling for that answer.
If you constantly find yourself saying I don’t know, I don’t know, I don’t know and you’re not doing anything to figure out the answer to that question then it’s clearly not important to you.
As I said before, degrees of importance will vary depending upon where you are in life and where you plan on going. It’s okay if this topic isn’t important to you today, it eventually will be and when that time comes you will consider answering that question.
But if you lack the curiosity and genuine interest of figuring out what it is you’re passionate about, no advice in this blog or anywhere will help you figure out what it is you want to do. You need to find the motivation and seek out your passion because it is not something that happens overnight.
Make a conscious effort to figure it out. Like I said it’s not easy, but don’t expect it to fall in your lap either. Get out there do something different and see what comes your way.
As always, thank you for reading and feel free to leave any feedback.