Gain Clarity On Your Mission In Life By Asking Yourself This Question.

It’s funny, we put more candles on our birthday cake each year, but many people still tell me they’re not sure what their ultimate calling is.

I’m not talking about people exclusively in their twenties either. Some of the seasoned business executives I work with tell me they still haven’t figured it out. Sure their current job gives them some level of fulfillment, but most acknowledge there is something greater in life for them that they’d really like to spend their time on.

It just hasn’t hit them yet.

Lately I’ve been low-key obsessing over what my life’s purpose is, what i’m on this planet to do and how I really like to spend my time.

The one question I keep asking myself to push the envelope on this topic is:

“What do I have to offer this world?”

Think about it.

From the day we were born we’ve been doing 2 things:

  1. Collecting information
  2. Learning behaviors and skills

As we get older, go through schooling and accumulate experience in life, we begin to fill up a metaphorical bag of valuable human capital.

Every one of us have this metaphorical bag and no two people have the same items inside their bag. That’s what makes each person’s bag valuable.

So ask yourself, what’s in YOUR bag?

What experiences do you have to share that could benefit others?

What do people ask you for advice on?

What are the top qualities you have?

Collect the answers to these questions and like puzzle pieces, see what you can create when you out them together.

But..but…i’m not creative. Like not creative at all. I can’t even draw a stick figure.

No one is asking you to create a sculpture or draw a pretty picture. All you need to do is brainstorm and think about the answer these questions and see what comes to mind.

You may try this several times and get frustrated by the lack of ideas that show up.

But that’s normal.

You don’t become a body builder after spending 1 hour in the gym and your life’s purpose won’t be clear after thinking about it for 5 minutes.

Like consistently going to the gym and seeing results over time; consistently think about the answers to questions like this and try putting them together. Similar to the muscles you’ll develop, you’ll gain more and more clarity on your purpose.

One thing is certain, doing nothing will fail to create anything. Doing something can create anything.

Will you do something or nothing?

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-Danilo Vuk Capric

 

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Explore Your Life’s Purpose With This Easy Exercise.

I’m very thankful for the new people who have entered my sphere of influence in 2017.

Many of them have exceptionally bright minds.

One of those bright minds happens to lie within the cranium of my dear friend Aaron Cort. Aaron was a very impressive individual right off the bat as he was 20 years old and creating his own company (Neverpeakmedia.com) while finishing his Marketing degree. We even had the same morning routine, so there was a lot of common ground to stand on.

One of the gems Aaron dropped on me was the concept of carving out time to think about your vision. To explore your life mission and reflect on what brings you the greatest sense of purpose and fulfillment. He called it “Vision Development” and told me how he thinks about his vision on a weekly basis.

Since then, I’ve adopted the practice and spend the hours of 6pm-7pm EST every Wednesday in “Vision Development”.

The first thing I do in my vision Development time is meditate. I sit down in a comfortable position and for 10 minutes (at least), close my eyes, focusing all of my energy on the subject of my vision and purpose.

After the meditation, I grab my journal and jot down what came to mind during the meditation. Usually, the action of writing allows those fresh ideas to grow and become even more powerful as you fall into a state of flow, truly focused on your vision.

Think about the compounding effect of a practice like this. Every week you pick up where you left off and keep building, exploring and practicing. Until you get to a point of clarity where the actions you need to get started become clear.

Think about athletes for a second. They need to invest a lot of time into training in order to compete at a high level, right? The more time they spend training and working out, the stronger and faster they can become.

So naturally, the more time we invest in formulating our vision, the clearer it can get.

For me, this practice has provided the following:

  • A Main Idea
    • By having practiced this habit for 1.5 months (6 hours) I’ve gained clarity on the most important factor in my vision; which is to help people in some way or form.
    • Helping people is broad, so I focused on it more and through the exercise, I refined it to “supplying people with information to make positive change.”
  • A Road Map
    • understanding the big picture allows you to have the goal in mind. Once you have the goal, creation of a path to it is in your hands.
    • The current sessions I have are now about the road to my goal and exploring avenues for how I can attain it.
  • A Process to Follow
    • Our parents, teachers and mentors often ask us what we want to do in life. many of us say “I don’t know”. What they don’t ask is “what are you going to do to figure that out”? This is a practice you can adopt to start chipping away at that million dollar question.
    • It’s easy, repeatable and requires very little except for a chair and something to write in.

 

Let me be clear. This practice will not create a vision for you. What it will do is create an opportunity for your self to give this topic real attention and allow ideas to come to mind, that you can then explore further.

From there, the rest is in your hands.

How could you benefit from adopting a practice like this?

-Danilo Vuk Capric

 

How coffee inspired positive emotion within me.

This morning I was flipping through my journal and stumbled upon an older entry that was written this year on August 29th.

On this particular page was one of my most powerful memories.

Allow me to explain…

When I wrote that particular entry on August 29th it was one of the final days I had in my beautiful studio apartment in Downtown Boston. I was at my favorite coffee shop conveniently located about 30 steps across the street, Jaho coffee & wine bar. During those 5 months I lived downtown, I had spent a lot of time at Jaho doing the following:

-Drinking lots of coffee and espresso

-Meeting my very first friends in Boston

-Doing homework

-Taking girls out on first dates

-Reading in my spare time

Anyways, I ordered the usual Cinnamon Bliss coffee, one of their signature espresso drinks, made of Espresso, Cinnamon, Milk and Sugar. This drink is hands down the greatest caffeinated beverage I’ve experienced in my 25 years on the planet.

I was outdoors in the patio at the white tables on Washington Street, people watching. The sun made a soft appearance and began rising from behind the tall sky scrapers that surrounded me.

After about 3 minutes, my cinnamon bliss was placed on my table from one of the lovely Baristas.

I put down the book I was reading and held the cup in my hands. Its warmth brought a smile to my face.

The sun was now completely visible and caressed my face as I drew closer to take a sip.

Once the cinnamon bliss met my lips, I was consumed in an explosion of flavor. In other words, I was fully in cinnamon bliss. (Corny, I know)

I even closed my eyes for a second to fully experience the sensations of the moment. The sound of people walking and talking in the bustling city occupied the walls of my ears. In my sight was the bright sun, casting golden reflections on the buildings around me as birds zipped through the streets, looking for a quick snack.

The moment was so pleasant and filled me with positive emotion. Everything seemed to be just perfect, so I relished the feeling for as long as possible.

Taking in moments like these is something I learned how to do from Rick Hanson Ph.D.’s book, “Hardwiring Happiness”. The book teaches you an easy to follow method to transform positive experiences into permanent neural structures in the brain that you can call upon at any moment to combat negative feelings or just have an experience similar to the one I wrote about here.

By doing this over time, you can compile a positive memory bank, or arsenal, as I like to call it, of memories and experiences that you can call upon at any moment to help overcome negative thoughts, stress or anxiety.

It’s just a cup of coffee, but for me that memory is amongst the most powerful in my arsenal that continues to bring me joy to the point where I felt compelled to share it with the world.

How could you hardwire happiness into your life?

 

 

Thank you for reading! What feedback or questions do you have?

-Danilo Vuk Capric

My Top Experiences & Lessons Learned in 2016 (Written for Millenials)

2016 has been the best year of my life. I invested a lot of time into learning about myself and took the most action towards achieving what mattered most to me. This is the way I determine the success of … Continue reading

The importance of asking your self “Whats Next.”

Asking yourself “What’s next?”

As humans, we are creatures of habit. But we must understand that habits are highly poisonous. Did he just say poisonous?” Hold on, relax. I know what you’re probably thinking, “what about my morning routine?” “Or going to church with my family on Sunday’s? Are those habits poisonous too?” Let me explain before you exit this window. When I say, “Habits are poisonous” what I mean is that habits make us comfortable.

I am not saying that you should stop brushing your teeth every morning or quit the job you have been working at for 2 years now. That would be silly. What I want people to do is to ask themselves one question. “What’s next?” This habit will allow you to make changes in your routine life and achieve the goals you have, faster. In order to do this, it’s best to set up short and long term goals. Once you reach them you ask, “What’s next?” You can see how this forces you to make a choice on what to do, your next move has to differ from what you did to get there because your past moves have already been made and you can’t repeat them.

The same principle can be applied to working out. If a person is doing the same series of exercises month after month, there is no new challenge and with no new challenge comes no new results.

Never settle for “Just good enough.”

These habits that we form are the same as settling at just being “Good enough” and most of the time we even get praise for it. We have a job to be our worst critics because we are the only ones who know what we are capable of and only we know when we can do more.

As a student I have always done well in school, networked my way into jobs/internships and even secured a full time offer before graduation. I did this by always asking myself “What’s next”. I can’t tell you the amount of praise I get for my “Successful endeavors” from family and friends but I simply look at those accomplishments as things I “was supposed to do”. Isn’t that the point of college essentially, to secure a job afterwards?  I hadn’t done anything extraordinary and I knew that I could do more!

We have another responsibility of not letting the comments of others inflate our egos in such a way that we get comfortable and feel as though we have accomplished enough to cease the challenging of ourselves. Knowing that there is always room for improvement and new ways to challenge yourself is the key at never settling, this is why asking the question of “What’s next” is so vital.

The stepping stone concept

I have a picture that I like to paint for people when I illustrate this concept verbally and this it’s called “The stepping stone concept”. Hopefully this will make it clear for anyone who is in question on how to follow this methodology.

Picture a series of stepping stones; these stones are close enough to where you can walk from one to the other without much difficulty. The stones start off being rather large in size but as you progress and each task gets more difficult, the stones become smaller and smaller, requiring more strategy and planning for how exactly you will make your next move. You carefully travel from one stone to the next but you can never go backwards because as you leap from one to the other, the previous stone disappears. Now this leaves you with one option, to move forward and keep going on to the next goal or challenge. This way you keep growing, you get exposed to new things and people, you evolve as a person and this, my friends is how you accentuate your life. It is when people stay on a stone that they have found comfort on or when they feel as though they have crossed many stones and have no need to continue jumping that they feel this comfort; consequently becoming stagnant in every aspect of your life.

Not only will this accentuate your life by consistently sharpening your mind and body, but you will be able to help others get past the same stones that you once had to leap on. So in turn while you accentuate your life, you return the favor to another; and trust me when you’re able to give advice as a person who has been in their shoes you will notice that they will place more value on your words. So imagine if we all asked ourselves “What’s Next” and never settled, we would constantly go forward, always help others move forward and progress together. We need leaders in this world and if you can get through all of the stones that’s great, but you minimize your impact if you can’t teach another individual how to get to the same place as you.

-Danilo Vuk Capric.

5 Ways to make people like you instantly.

  1. Talk about THEM, not what you want.

When you meet someone for the first time, be inquisitive. Ask them about what they like, their interests, hobbies and goals in order to show that you are genuinely interested in them and what they have to say. Everyone loves to talk about themselves so the more listening you can do, the better. When you see an attractive person and wish to contact them in the future, do you just walk up and ask for precisely what you want? No, you need to talk about them. When people show a genuine interest in us, we relax, we are no longer under the impression that this person wants/needs something from us and consequently are more willing to offer something if indeed there is something we can help them with; but only after they express a true interest in us first. This is effective because we all lookout for ourselves before considering anyone else, so when a stranger approaches and considers everything about the other person and nothing about themselves, the result is a sense of importance created within the other party. Once that is established you will be able to acquire what it is you were initially looking for.

  1. Praise and recognize the work THEY do.

Do you know of anyone who doesn’t enjoy being congratulated or told they did a good job at something? If so please contact me immediately because I would love to meet that person.

Acknowledging people and their efforts, letting them know that they don’t go unappreciated, is one of the best ways to make people like you. Isn’t that why we have award ceremonies?

If one of your friends is trying to lose weight and constantly hits the gym, changes their entire diet and life style to complete a goal. Praise them for it! Acknowledge that you see the sacrifices they made and you realize how much will and determination that it took in order to make those changes. Not only will you help that person continue to pursue that goal but you positively reinforce their behaviors as well. You also become a great friend.

  1. Smile

The following benefits of smiling have been scientifically proven:

  • Increased speed in stress recovery
  • Release of endorphins
  • Causes others to smile (contagious)
  • Considered more attractive

With the following facts presented, failing to smile is a huge disadvantage that could be the difference between a great first impression and a not so great first impression. Another question you might want to ask yourself is, don’t I enjoy myself more when I’m surrounded people who smile? People who laugh? People who radiate positive energy? A common prerequisite to all these things is the act of smiling.

  1. Deliver on your promises

People don’t like being let down. Ever. If you say something, be sure to commit to it.

If you purchase something online with an expected delivery date and it does not arrive by the promised date, how does that make you feel? Most people would agree on a feeling of frustration or being let down, disappointed…etc. When you don’t keep your promises people may take it personal or feel as though you don’t find them to be of much importance. Once trust is lost, it is extremely difficult to get back.

  1. Remember their name

Nothing can be more insulting than forgetting a person’s name. No matter how inspiring your connection with them may be and how much common ground you can uncover, by the end of the conversation, if you have to ask “what was your name again?” It almost destroys all of the rapport that you just spent precious time building up. Compare it to building a log cabin for 5 years and just before you put the roof on it…a land slide demolishes the entire structure.