3 Reasons why you have no idea what to do with the rest of your life.

Recently I’ve come across many friends and even acquaintances of other friends who constantly express that they have no idea what they’d like to do with the rest of their lives. 

It’s not an uncommon thing at all. Most of us have shared this feeling at some point in our young lives and some of us still feel it today.

But have you ever thought why? Why don’t you know what you want to do? Why don’t you know what you like? Why aren’t you thinking about turning your hobbies into a career? 

Why isn’t it so simple for me?

Here are the reasons why.

1. You Surround Yourself With The Same People And Make No Effort To Branch Out.

Friends, you need them in life; they can help you out when the going gets tough and they can even help you feel good when you’re down. 

But each person in your life brings you something. In other words, you gain something from hanging out with them; whether it’s the pleasure of their presence or a tangible resource. Nobody has a friend that they hang out with for no reason, there is always an exchange of some sort.

When you don’t surround yourself with new people or you consistently stick with the same people for years and years you’re constantly exposed to the same things, have the same conversations, and do the same things. There’s no growth in that, meaning no long term benefit for you!

Ok great, but how can new people help me figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life? 

EASY. 

They introduce you to new things, people and experiences.

 How much more likely are you to do something when you have the support of a friend? I know some people who need a partner just to go to the gym! 

These new people will open your mind to trying new things that you may have never even thought of before. As creatures of habit, many humans are set in their ways and we think we know the things we like and don’t like. 

WRONG.

Sometimes we need another person to give us a push and then bam we find joy in something we would have never discovered otherwise.

2. You Never Leave Your Comfort Zone.

Like I just mentioned, we are creatures of habit. We enjoy doing the same thing every day, we like our daily routine, it’s perfectly normal to feel that way, no one is wrong for that.

But again, there’s no growth in that.

When was the last time you deviated from your daily routine? When was the last time you went to a new city? When’s the last time you did something for the first time?

If it’s been a long time for you, then you should start thinking about making changes.

If you’ve been working the same job for years and have no opportunity for growth then leave it.

If you’ve been living in the same city for several years and have no plan on how to advance forward in your life, then leave it.

If you’ve been with a significant other that you see no future with who does not add to your personal development and success, then leave them.

If you only think about today, well you better start thinking about tomorrow.

Being comfortable is a trap, you should always be looking for ways to grow and step out of that comfort zone. 

When you do this, you get exposed to new things and will certainly have new experiences. This “newness” will create opportunities for you to see things you’re not used to and be exposed to what could be the passion you never knew you had.

3. It’s not important to you.

Depending on your age and where you are in life, the remainder of your life and what you choose to do with it should be a very important topic.

If you don’t know what you want to do, that’s okay. What’s not okay is settling for that answer. 

If you constantly find yourself saying I don’t know, I don’t know, I don’t know and you’re not doing anything to figure out the answer to that question then it’s clearly not important to you.

As I said before, degrees of importance will vary depending upon where you are in life and where you plan on going. It’s okay if this topic isn’t important to you today, it eventually will be and when that time comes you will consider answering that question.

But if you lack the curiosity and genuine interest of figuring out what it is you’re passionate about, no advice in this blog or anywhere will help you figure out what it is you want to do. You need to find the motivation and seek out your passion because it is not something that happens overnight.

Make a conscious effort to figure it out. Like I said it’s not easy, but don’t expect it to fall in your lap either. Get out there do something different and see what comes your way. 
Good luck.

As always, thank you for reading and feel free to leave any feedback.

6 Reasons Why You Didnt Secure A Job After College

A lot of people blame the economy or say that the jobs they want aren’t out there. Some people blame their situations or environment. Some even say that no one is willing to give them the experience in order to get the job they want. I don’t believe any of that. It is all, 100% on you. THIS IS WHY YOU DIDNT GET A JOB.

  1. Your lifestyle never changed from freshman to senior year.

As a college senior graduating in less than a week I will be the first one to say that the majority of your sophomore & freshman year WILL be spent socializing and attending parties followed by waking up in strange places wondering what the hell you did last night.

That’s okay. It’s going to happen. But your focus and your lifestyle should change with each year in school. For me at least, it looked something like this.

  • Freshman year-
    • Meeting people, hooking up with girls, partying, maybe I’ll study.
  • Sophomore year-
    •  Meet different people, more girls, more parties, go out to new places, actually study because I did terrible last year.
  • Junior year-
    •  Begin thinking about a job, apply to internships, stay in more, less party, less girls, more school.
  • Senior year-
    •  Secure or working to secure a job for after graduation, party way less, drink wine at home with a small group of friends, focused on graduating.

If you are still a senior glorifying beer pong or having a consistent presence at house parties, realize that time of your life is over with. If your lifestyle is the same in your senior year as it was freshman year, then you are not spending your time wisely and more importantly not growing or maturing.

  1. You didn’t use your school’s resources.
  • Job fairs.
  • Internship fairs.
  • Center for Career development services.
  • Networking events.
  • Professors.

If you never used any of the above resources, you are at a huge disadvantage.

Career development services literally supplies the student body with internships, even paid ones! So why not hop in that persons office to discuss opportunities, you have all to gain and nothing to lose.

Professors also know a ton of professionals in various industries who are looking for fresh new grads with talent, but if you fail to meet with them and ask…well then u missed out.

Job fairs and networking events are huge! They literally allow you to meet employers on a face to face level and give you the opportunity to market yourself and tell them why they should choose you. Skipping out on these is a giant missed opportunity.

  1. You didn’t surround yourself with the right people.

If you are future minded, ambitious and consistently working to achieve your goals that is excellent and I commend you for it. But if everyone you hang out with is not, then you need to start looking for a new group of friends more like you.

Surround yourself with people who recognize your talents and celebrate your success. Not with people who are content with where they are or celebrate being good enough or achieving the bare minimum. You owe it to yourself to be surrounded by the best and if you believe that you are, you should seek into surround yourself with it at all times.

  1. You were unemployed during college.

Put yourself in the shoes of an employer. Would you want to hire a stand out student who never worked while in college? Some of you might say “sure why not, they have a great GPA and tons of service hours.” I can see that point of view. But I know that experience is 100 times more valuable than anything written on paper. 

Apply it to any other situation. Would you let a lawyer represent you in court if he had zero experience but finished at the top of his class? Or would you pick the lawyer who’s done 100+ cases? I’ll leave you all to answer that one.

And by the way, if you WERE NOT a stand out student AND you were unemployed….then you will face even tougher obstacles.

The next concern might be, “well how will working a meaningless part time job that doesn’t apply to my major be of any help?” Don’t sell yourself short! That “meaningless” part time job means a lot more than you think! Here is why working while in school makes you a better job candidate.

  • Displays ability to manage time.
  • Demonstrates commitment and prioritization.
  • Shows work ethic

All of these traits are considered when employers evaluate candidates for positions and if you were unemployed for 4 years, it doesn’t make you as attractive.

Another point that I must add is that, your part time jobs can hand you golden opportunities where you can do the following:

  • Network and meet potential employers
  • Get promoted and gain valuable experience
  • Get letters of recommendation
  1. You didn’t take accountability.

If you are one to still blame your professors or group members for the grades you received, grow up and take accountability.

Making excuses might have been okay during freshman and sophomore year but if you are STILL blaming other people for your current situation, then chances are you haven’t matured into adulthood.

You must realize that we are all equipped with the same resources and an identical 24 hours in each day to make use of them and achieve our goals. You are the reason for where you are in life and only you can change it.

Know that.

  1. You have a sense of entitlement.

Everyone who has a job or is in the position that you wish to be in started just like you did. FROM THE BOTTOM. No college graduate is going directly to the top of whatever field they find passion in.

Every industry has a set of stairs and they need to be climbed. I’m sure you are all familiar with the quote “the elevator to success is out of order; you’ll have to take the stairs.” It’s true, and you do have to take the stairs just like everyone before you did.

Also, just because you have a degree you think you DESERVE something? WHY? So many people have identical or superior credentials compared to you but for some reason you deserve more? You need to differentiate yourself and determine why you deserve things if you feel that you do so badly.

But it’s never too late. Even if you have already graduated. Reach back out to your school, work part time and build up contacts, stop partying and take accountability for your situation and you too can reach your goals.