We all wish to be successful according to our own definition of the term.
Some of us may want to reach financial success while others have a less materialistic view; others might just seek to be “happy” or near people they love.
Either way, for the moment we are all in a position. We are not all in the same position because our journeys differ incredibly; however we are all at some current position in the journey to reach our own version of success.
One question we might ask is: “how do I get from my current position to where I want to be in life?” “How can I get closer to reaching my version of success?” Both are great questions.
Here are the answers.
1. Know where you DONT want to be.
We all have a map, but we may not have destinations. Many young people, college students and even graduates still have no idea what they want to do with their life, that’s okay. It’s only one of the most important decisions you can ever make that will also shape the way you live, so it’s a good thing to take your time with it.
But more important than knowing where you want to be is knowing where you DONT want to be. Those guidelines will keep you from moving backwards; and even if you are unaware of your goals & aspirations you need to at least move forward. If you set the goal of “I don’t want to make below this much money, I don’t want to be in a relationship that deals with x,y,z, and I don’t want to ever get any sort of trouble with the police.” Those goals will guide you towards where you want to be since you’re going the opposite direction from where you don’t want to be.
When you use this technique, progress is always made and even without a destination on your map you will always be moving.
Just don’t betray yourself and move backwards. When you move backwards, you create more work for yourself by adding distance from your eventual goal. Knowing where you don’t want to be is the best defense against moving backwards.
Often at times, the beginning of anything can be the most difficult. It can be so difficult that it discourages some people from ever attempting their journeys. Here are some reasons why the beginning of anything can be difficult for some:
· No plan
· Lack of motivation
When people have little or no instruction, they may find it difficult to create solutions or produce results. Not knowing where to begin can put one in an uncomfortable position that may prevent them from starting in the first place.
After you identify where you want to be or where you don’t want to be, find out your starting point or assess your current situation, and GO from there.
3. Realizing that it takes time.
Your success will not occur overnight. KNOW THAT. Realizing that it takes time to reach that “x” on your map will fuel you through the journey.
With the completion of each prerequisite and meeting of each mile stone you will see your success occur gradually.
That gradual movement on your map is success.
4. Remembering where you came from.
Performance over time is a great bench marking tool used by many in the business world. It is equally great at allowing us to compare our present situation with our past.
Knowing where you are and where you have been allows you to recognize your success with a tangible product; yourself. If you can say “man, I can’t believe I used to be a “blank” and now I’m a “blank”. I really have come a long way in this company.” Or any similar statement that applies the comparison of your past with your present situation, you actually see and realize the progress that has been made.
5. Celebrating tiny victories.
When you reach part of your goal or deviate from where you don’t want to be, celebrate! Commend yourself, compliment and congratulate yourself on how well disciplined you’ve been and for all the milestones in between.
Celebrate your progress and recognize the advancements that have been made.
You are your own biggest supporter and without the support of yourself it’s unlikely you’ll get support from others.