- Talk about THEM, not what you want.
When you meet someone for the first time, be inquisitive. Ask them about what they like, their interests, hobbies and goals in order to show that you are genuinely interested in them and what they have to say. Everyone loves to talk about themselves so the more listening you can do, the better. When you see an attractive person and wish to contact them in the future, do you just walk up and ask for precisely what you want? No, you need to talk about them. When people show a genuine interest in us, we relax, we are no longer under the impression that this person wants/needs something from us and consequently are more willing to offer something if indeed there is something we can help them with; but only after they express a true interest in us first. This is effective because we all lookout for ourselves before considering anyone else, so when a stranger approaches and considers everything about the other person and nothing about themselves, the result is a sense of importance created within the other party. Once that is established you will be able to acquire what it is you were initially looking for.
- Praise and recognize the work THEY do.
Do you know of anyone who doesn’t enjoy being congratulated or told they did a good job at something? If so please contact me immediately because I would love to meet that person.
Acknowledging people and their efforts, letting them know that they don’t go unappreciated, is one of the best ways to make people like you. Isn’t that why we have award ceremonies?
If one of your friends is trying to lose weight and constantly hits the gym, changes their entire diet and life style to complete a goal. Praise them for it! Acknowledge that you see the sacrifices they made and you realize how much will and determination that it took in order to make those changes. Not only will you help that person continue to pursue that goal but you positively reinforce their behaviors as well. You also become a great friend.
The following benefits of smiling have been scientifically proven:
- Increased speed in stress recovery
- Release of endorphins
- Causes others to smile (contagious)
- Considered more attractive
With the following facts presented, failing to smile is a huge disadvantage that could be the difference between a great first impression and a not so great first impression. Another question you might want to ask yourself is, don’t I enjoy myself more when I’m surrounded people who smile? People who laugh? People who radiate positive energy? A common prerequisite to all these things is the act of smiling.
- Deliver on your promises
People don’t like being let down. Ever. If you say something, be sure to commit to it.
If you purchase something online with an expected delivery date and it does not arrive by the promised date, how does that make you feel? Most people would agree on a feeling of frustration or being let down, disappointed…etc. When you don’t keep your promises people may take it personal or feel as though you don’t find them to be of much importance. Once trust is lost, it is extremely difficult to get back.
- Remember their name
Nothing can be more insulting than forgetting a person’s name. No matter how inspiring your connection with them may be and how much common ground you can uncover, by the end of the conversation, if you have to ask “what was your name again?” It almost destroys all of the rapport that you just spent precious time building up. Compare it to building a log cabin for 5 years and just before you put the roof on it…a land slide demolishes the entire structure.